How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

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10 meses atrás

Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
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Pauline Lee
Pauline Lee 16 minutos atrás
Ok I will not take it personally and take it personally.
Diannelis Veloz
Diannelis Veloz 48 minutos atrás
Thank youuu, I loved ittt😭❤❤
Zeba Thamim
Zeba Thamim Hora atrás
There should be more people like him...
Sai Lin Phyo
Sai Lin Phyo 2 horas atrás
Best TED talk ever. You won't regret watching it
May Hai
May Hai 5 horas atrás
Maaf ya allah hamba liat ini.
Veerendra Sarovar
Veerendra Sarovar 8 horas atrás
Great presentation 🙏. First 16 minutes = Last 1.5 minutes 😎
Peter Lloyd
Peter Lloyd 10 horas atrás
Who is this buffoon?
Ashok Mudliar
Ashok Mudliar 11 horas atrás
thank you fred
Faabiha khan
Faabiha khan 12 horas atrás
The end bit really hit.
KyaraExMachina
KyaraExMachina 15 horas atrás
Anytime I want to feel bad about myself I just listen to a TED Talk.
Angus Wheaton
Angus Wheaton 16 horas atrás
Thanks for this Frederik. I just ran a football coaching session yesterday and it was informally assessed without any real prior notice. Myself and the other coach got slammed by the assessor. I'm qualified in training and assessment myself and felt although the assessment was correct, it was not delivered in a fair manner. I have taken it all personally. This has helped me deal with it on a day when I'm considering giving the coaching with this organisation away, which would mean letting down twenty young players and their parents. I'm very glad I came along this presentation at exactly the right time.
Gonzo Gutierrez
Gonzo Gutierrez 17 horas atrás
Why does he sound British and French at the same time? I think the talk so far though.
GANESH MEJI-OSPINA
GANESH MEJI-OSPINA 20 horas atrás
this is deff KDBs dad, from Belgium too
Joey
Joey 20 horas atrás
im right is the big problem with soeity right now lol
colile zakithi moeti
colile zakithi moeti 20 horas atrás
Jesus loves you
Bander Frank
Bander Frank 23 horas atrás
RUBBISH!
Cookie Monster
Cookie Monster 23 horas atrás
This hits hard when you feel bad about yourself
Zee Avi
Zee Avi 7 horas atrás
Try not to take it personally. 🍪
Shota Toriumi
Shota Toriumi Dia atrás
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שוקי וקסלר
שוקי וקסלר Dia atrás
Brilliant. thank you!
cancer dr
cancer dr Dia atrás
"Ego is the enemy "as in the book by same name .
Nishtha Sharma
Nishtha Sharma Dia atrás
Very informative! Emotional training should be a part of parenting and school/college curriculum.
Shantanu Kadiyali
Shantanu Kadiyali Dia atrás
6:54 is when the tips start
May Hai
May Hai Dia atrás
XXXXX
Seun
Seun Dia atrás
I am offended that BRpost thinks I take things personally. I mean, why recommend this.
Ern Tellez
Ern Tellez 19 horas atrás
It’s not about you, it’s about BRpost’s intention
shane
shane Dia atrás
soooo..did he give the guy the 20 euros???? lol
May Hai
May Hai Dia atrás
Aaaaaaaaaahhhhh .
Clutch Cargo
Clutch Cargo Dia atrás
Excellent talk - thx - this was a big help !
Rachel Buquet
Rachel Buquet Dia atrás
Is this man taken?! What a gem!
mimosa pudica
mimosa pudica Dia atrás
wow this is one of my super favorite ted talks!! it made me feel a little better about myself. thank you so much for this, sir!! 💕
VRidgeLand Scaping
VRidgeLand Scaping Dia atrás
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TheGuide
TheGuide Dia atrás
Why can't they teach this stuff in school? Could have saved me years of unnecessary pain thinking everything is about me. 😭😪😭
Romantico Poeta
Romantico Poeta Dia atrás
"Seems like crowd its more busy on there iphones.
BlueSkies AndClouds
BlueSkies AndClouds Dia atrás
A very clear, engaging and structured talk with a powerful finish! I also love the smooth transitions from one subject to another - had my attention from start to finish. Thank you! 😊 👏
Seva Team
Seva Team Dia atrás
👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Lonniea Cheeks
Lonniea Cheeks Dia atrás
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Alexandra Holden
Alexandra Holden Dia atrás
Thank you. In a time such as this your words speak volumes
Malak Wesam
Malak Wesam Dia atrás
It was outstanding speech ❤️
Tricia Shortridge
Tricia Shortridge Dia atrás
Wow! His speech was very entertaining and spot on. I have the same things he described.
Roman Boyzov Photography & Videography
Roman Boyzov Photography & Videography Dia atrás
Great leason
MAKEUP TUBE
MAKEUP TUBE Dia atrás
But being neglected by loved one hurts
Viraj Gorde
Viraj Gorde 2 dias atrás
He sold himself with his last act!
Unfunny Bunny
Unfunny Bunny 2 dias atrás
I could listen to him talk about anything and everything. He has so much positive energy!
Laxmi Love
Laxmi Love 2 dias atrás
Thanks a lot! ❤️🙏
Addakula Ashok
Addakula Ashok 2 dias atrás
Why I thinking if I commented something here what others think
falloutgirl 65
falloutgirl 65 2 dias atrás
This video helps a lot I used to take Soo many things personally
tanya ye
tanya ye 2 dias atrás
the last line is the essential
miss aery
miss aery 2 dias atrás
The real question is, does he use the same 20 euros everytime he gives his talk
Carpediem06
Carpediem06 2 dias atrás
the thumbnail looks like Prince Harry.. and im like.. oh.. isn't he the epitomy of currently taking things personally
Matthew Arcati
Matthew Arcati 2 dias atrás
The secret is to stop caring !
Alejandro Flaño
Alejandro Flaño 2 dias atrás
im taking the silence of the audience personally
Frances Oleander
Frances Oleander 2 dias atrás
I especially love the last part of his speech!
Marvini Pereira
Marvini Pereira 2 dias atrás
Ted Talk shoud invite David Goggins
Kalle Quist
Kalle Quist 2 dias atrás
If u take it personally why should I listen to u? Goodbye
bonnie jean
bonnie jean 2 dias atrás
For those who have been " victims " of " cancel culture ", we must remember, we still have value.
May Hai
May Hai 2 dias atrás
love.
Prince Flip
Prince Flip 2 dias atrás
I hope Mj doesn't see this video 😮
D-DUB
D-DUB 2 dias atrás
This is the most connected I have felt with someone in months. Wow. Frederik is an excellent speaker and this topic is what I have struggled with the most through life. I always know the talk has made a lasting imprint if it's got me tearing up with happiness at the end lol. Like finding a solution to what eats at you the most.... or at least a two-way approach to handling it. Thank you so much.
Mohd Shahnawaz
Mohd Shahnawaz 3 dias atrás
Absolutely loved this video. Thank you so much for this valuable information:)
Liliane Beeckman
Liliane Beeckman 3 dias atrás
Het probleem is dat we dat vrijwel allemaal doen.
triggerpressyes
triggerpressyes 3 dias atrás
Horrible feedback and ringing in this video. Almost can’t watch. Nothing personal
Andrew Moncada
Andrew Moncada 3 dias atrás
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Ghanhsyam Bhavsar
Ghanhsyam Bhavsar 3 dias atrás
great!
Adriana B.
Adriana B. 3 dias atrás
Really good story telling. I felt like a kid being read a story.
Castro Jesus
Castro Jesus 3 dias atrás
80% of what we think are negative 🤔 cool...I thought it was just a Baltimore City thing..
A M
A M 3 dias atrás
I am an Orange
Immortal Miku
Immortal Miku 3 dias atrás
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Udaysen Mohite
Udaysen Mohite 3 dias atrás
Brilliant stuff, personally it was an epiphany.
Batuhan Kavlak
Batuhan Kavlak 3 dias atrás
Actually, referees have coins they are either the ball or the goal.
Bruh fr
Bruh fr 3 dias atrás
And i took that personally
zeljka markovic
zeljka markovic 3 dias atrás
Just brilliant
Gamer007
Gamer007 4 dias atrás
What an nice guy!
monggyo W
monggyo W 4 dias atrás
this is an amazing ted talk !
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
Hi Monggyo, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
Alex Cowles
Alex Cowles 4 dias atrás
I'm not crying, you're crying.
Tanmay Singhal
Tanmay Singhal 4 dias atrás
damn ending was epic❤
Tanmay Singhal
Tanmay Singhal 4 dias atrás
@Frederik Imbo I just had a doubt, what if no-one raised hand to accept that note, what would you do then?
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
Thank you Tanmay! Please spread the word!
Adonis Mx
Adonis Mx 4 dias atrás
That's such a great video
Angel G
Angel G 4 dias atrás
Sent this to my mom and pops I hope they don’t take it personally
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
And if they do, please don't take it personally. You know how now!
RED exPUA
RED exPUA 4 dias atrás
Epic
Niranjan Khadka
Niranjan Khadka 4 dias atrás
I don't feel right about being empathetic to wrong people. How come I compromise on not being right to wrong people. Its tough
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
Hi Niranjan. You don't have to anything if it doesn't feel right. You only empathize with someone if you want to. If you feel that you however want to keep your heard open. As long as you don't want it... it means that you're stuck in your ego. Which is not good or bad. It is just was it is. You give empathy because you don't want to feel yourself annoyed or frustrated. You do it because you want to be in peace with the other one.
Victor Carlisle
Victor Carlisle 4 dias atrás
So excellent. I really needed to hear this.
Al'set Barnabi
Al'set Barnabi 4 dias atrás
4:30 you'll thank me =)
Mike Banner
Mike Banner 4 dias atrás
This is a great lesson, given by a sympathetic guy
naijamann
naijamann 4 dias atrás
Hahahahaha you are describing me... I feel hurt when not acknowledged and take things very personally... thanks for pointing it out .. enjoyed this
naijamann
naijamann 2 dias atrás
@Frederik Imbo thanks for the assitance.. will share.. ive started practicing not taking things personally.. I'm now conscious of areas to apply it.. my heartbreak..office critisms I'm still myself and have my value..and worth
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
Hi Naijamann, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
Karma Llama
Karma Llama 4 dias atrás
Hey you, yes you 😊. you're probably scrolling through the comments like me. Just remember you are a beautiful person and deserve all the happiness in the world. Take some time to work on you, don't stress about whats going on in the world, or what you are going through. Its time to live your life, we only get one! Things will get better soon, I promise. ❤ Relaxing Music, Karma Llama. ❤
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
How sweet! Thank you.
Nickolas Smith
Nickolas Smith 5 dias atrás
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7LAMPS of FIRE
7LAMPS of FIRE 5 dias atrás
I needed this. Bad! More than food for today. I hear a lot of things that I can transition into my personality and character. This was absolute substance.
J. O.
J. O. 5 dias atrás
Just that last 1 minute of the video is worth it all! Great message 🥰
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
Hi J.O., Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
Ronaldo Garrosu
Ronaldo Garrosu 5 dias atrás
Michael Jordan needs to watch this.
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
Haha indeed Ronaldo. If you know him personally, send him a personal message. At the same time; Michael Jordan only tried to do his very best. He tried to deal with his unfulfilled needs of recognition. He just wanted to be valued.
Maciej Magic
Maciej Magic 5 dias atrás
Beautiful allegory and amazingly authentic emotional intelligence teachings in the tea break time❤💙💚 Many thanks 😊
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
Hi Maciej Magic. Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
Angel Paul
Angel Paul 5 dias atrás
Thank you for sharing this. It opened me to a whole new perspective of thinking on things that happened to me. It definitely takes a lot of courage and experience to be able to talk and relate to things that hits us so deep. Much appreciation here!
Ricky Torres
Ricky Torres 5 dias atrás
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Renaat Deckers
Renaat Deckers 5 dias atrás
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Renaat Deckers
Renaat Deckers 2 dias atrás
Mr. Frederck Imbo I’ m telling all my stydents& friends your story of the football- referee! A very fine ted talk! 👍👍
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
@Renaat Deckers You're very welcome Renaat. Graag gedaan.
Renaat Deckers
Renaat Deckers 5 dias atrás
Thank you Frederick Imbo
Homéostasie999
Homéostasie999 5 dias atrás
Very cool
Josh Easy
Josh Easy 5 dias atrás
Wow great ending, I read during the video similar comments to mine but didn’t expect that at the end, thank gosh ppl didn’t spoil the ending .. great quality video & lesson .. always remember your value .. 🙏🏾
Mr.WolfmanPlushies
Mr.WolfmanPlushies 5 dias atrás
Amazing Advice
bees wasps
bees wasps 5 dias atrás
I think the reason you don't take it personally when someone calls you an orange is because it is just a ridiculous thing to say to some one
bees wasps
bees wasps 5 dias atrás
Sometimes you do have to take things personally
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
Hi Bees Wasps. If you mean that 'taking things personally' helps you to come up for yourself and let the other one see and feel that he does something that crosses a boundary, feel free to do it. I'm only concerned then that your reaction might be quite punishing and agression. And that could lead to a conflict. But of course, you can do whatever you want. As long as you're willing to take the consequences of your behaviour then.
light throw clouds
light throw clouds 5 dias atrás
قشعريره
AHSAN ALAM
AHSAN ALAM 5 dias atrás
beautiful!
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
Thank you Ahsan.
Diane Gyemi
Diane Gyemi 5 dias atrás
Loved the ending!!!! Impactful!
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo 4 dias atrás
Hi Diane. Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
southlondon86
southlondon86 5 dias atrás
Thank you Frederik! I take everything personally so I really needed this. I’m definitely going to practice strengthening my ability to handle criticism. Like with anything else in life, it’s all strengthened through practice. 👍
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